Question:
Hi Dr,
Why do we make up emotions around the feelings? Isn't it Easier to learn the lesson and forgive and forget. Obviously it is, but we make up emotions because perhaps we can't cope with the actual feeling.
I sometimes do think he didn't do anything wrong. He didn't tell me to suffer, but I've suffered because I made him into something he wasn't then couldn't cope because he wasn't like that. Why did I feel this way?
Why haven't I been able to accept someone be the way they are and love them?
For who they are? Why did I want to make someone whose not what I want be
What I want? Maybe because they said they were like that and then changed?
I can't wait to hear your getting rid of emotional baggage CD's
Rose.
Answer:
Habit.
That is why we make up emotions around feelings.
The human mind is a story creating machine.
What most people don't realize is 99% of everything they think is "just the way it is" around them is actually their made up stories. And they believe them to be true, which then in turn makes them true, for them.
To be liberated from the myths of the story telling machine of our mind is one of the most freeing experiences in the world.
Like anything that you believe just "is" is almost always a made up story. It is not true at all, except you believe it to be true.
www.landmarkeducation.com is the best place I have found so far to liberate you from the story telling machine of your mind.
Emotions do NOT make the lesson easier to learn and forgive. Unless you believe the do.
The feeling is the easiest thing in the world to cope with. People love drama. If there is none the mind likes to create it. Just look at TV, the news, everywhere you turn, drama. Feelings are not very dramatic. Now emotions, there is some real drama.
In large part, the stories you make up are why you cannot accept someone the way they are. Loving or accepting someone for who they are and who they are not is really the easiest thing. But there is no drama in that. That is simple, easy, and the mind can easily get bored if no watched. So it creates stories, drama and all the other garbage.
Almost every human tries to change people, make them like they want. Does that make it right? What is right? But many people do it. The important thing is you don't have to know "why" in order to not do it. You can choose to accept people for who they are and who they are not. And that choice will be present many times. The more you choose them for who they are and who they are not, the easier it becomes.
This is love. This is why you have to "make love". You must generate it. Love is not a feeling. Love is not a warm fuzzy. Love is unconditional acceptance. And accepting someone is a choice that you make over and over again. It is not like you do it once and then you never have to choose that again. You choose to accept someone or not many times. And the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Or said in dramatic terms.
The more you love someone, the easier it is to love them.
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