“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” - John Lubbock
A Little Story to illustrate this quote.
A busy executive is walking down the street, in his head about what he has to do, talking on the phone, answering messages as he trips over a rock. He curses the rock and keeps moving throughout his day. Busy as all get out.
Right behind him is a man walking through life present and aware of life happening around him. He gets to the same spot, trips over the rock, looks down and says, wow, who a chunk of metal just sitting on the sidewalk. Today is my lucky day.
Someone who always focuses on what is wrong, all the reasons why not to do something will see things entirely different than someone who focuses on reasons why to do something, and what is right and good in the world.
The experience of these two people will be completely different as well. Your conscious mind can only be aware of 1 billionth of what is actually happening around you. Of all the information that is actually being processed by your non conscious mind.
So what you look for determines what your conscious mind will be come aware of. If you complain a lot, you will find things to complain about. If you are optimistic, you will find things to be happy about. If you think people cannot be trusted you will become aware of people that cannot be trusted. If you think people are good and can be trusted you will find more people who can be trusted.
So what you are “looking for” will determine your experience in life.