“You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.” -- Irish Proverb
No body can make you grow. No one can make you learn. You cannot rest an the results and growth of the people before you. You must do it yourself. It is only you.
Now, that doesn’t mean you cannot learn from other’s experiences. The wisest men and women have done exactly that. You are the one who must do that though.