“Forgiveness is giving up the right to retaliate. Forgiveness is the willingness to have something happen the way it happened. It's not true that you can't forgive something; it's a matter of the will, and you always have the choice.” -- Pixie Koestline Hammond
I talk a lot about forgiveness. To me it is the shortest, quickest and easiest way out of this illusionary world.
But what is forgiveness? Forgiveness to me is the realization that nothing happened. The “other” person did not do something wrong, bad and they are not guilty. Nothing happened, and therefore there is nothing to forgive.
It is not saying what they did is real, and you will forgive it anyway. It is the realization that nothing happened.
Now, I know that some will hear this and say, what? And that is fine. You do not have to understand why in order to truly forgive. But you can.
A Course in Miracles is my favoritist book. It explains this concept in over 600 pages. Literally. I have read it twice, and going on my third time. If you truly ask your inner knowing or holy spirit, you will feel and know from within the correctness of this thinking and the freedom this principle of forgiveness brings.
Or you can just throw it out. Your choice. It is always your choice.