Love is acceptance. If you are judging you are not accepting. Even if you call the judgment an observation. It is still a judgment. So acceptance is loving people for who they are and who they are not. Is loving people for what they do and what they don’t do.
When you find yourself angry, you are not loving, you are not accepting.
When you are upset you are not loving and not accepting.
Loving is feeling and accepting. Which is separate for condoning. You do not have to condone people or what they do or don’t do. You just accept them and love them.