So I wrote about your self concepts and how we all want them reinforced by others.
You are a slave to this self concept. It drives your life and decisions unconsciously.
First, begin with the assumption you have a self concept or 3 that you want reinforced.
Then ask yourself, what do you want other people to see you as?
What do other people see you as?
What do you want to be known for?
In your life, look for the self concepts that are running your life for you.
If you look, you will find them.
Not necessarily right away, but you will find them. And when you do, they will often stop running your life, just by seeing them.
These self concepts do not always have to be “bad” they can be positive.
But if you don’t know about them, they can often run your life, good or bad. And this, is never good. : )