Follow your inner knowing
I have written about this many, many, many times. But You cannot really hear it to much.
I am in a relationship with someone. And man, I am forced to get present to my inner knowing all the time. I have never dated someone who so does all the things I am not used to and has priorities above me that I totally do not agree with. She is always changing her mind in regards to plans that involve me, and often doesn’t tell me about those change in plans.
In the last month I have found myself getting upset frequently. I have not been this upset so many times since before I did the Landmark Forum in 2002. www.landmarkeducation.com – as a side note, I would recommend this to most people –
I get upset not because of her, but because of me and my expectations. Me and my opinions. Me and my points of view of how things “should” be.
She is showing me – unconsciously I admit – all the expectations and shoulds that I still have. It is funny, I had no idea that I had this many shoulds and expectations still.
It keeps me coming to the present moment and following my inner knowing. Doing what my inner knowing says. Not what my mind says.
See, my mind wants to make plans, do this, say that, make this decision. But it doesn’t know the full story. My mind only knows what I am conscious of.
So as I follow my inner knowing, I do what it says and don’t do what it says. And then I never get upset or disappointed in the outcome of what I am doing. Because I followed my inner knowing.
Your mind is always in the past or in the future. The comments it makes, the judgments, evaluations and assessments are always about something that happened in the past or something that probably won’t happen in the future.
Which means when you are listening to your mind you are not in the present moment. Which is really all there is. The future and past never exist but in your mind.
That is why they call it the present. It is a gift, a present, from God to be enjoyed moment to moment.