I re-learned how important it is to clearly communicate with people what you want.
For two weeks I have been working with a company. And for two weeks I have been asking, what do you want. What do you recommend?
They thought they were telling me, but they never came out and said it. Once they finally came out and directly told me what they wanted, I said OK. And they were really surprised I said OK.
Because for 2 weeks, they thought I “knew” what they wanted, and since I wasn’t doing that, I wasn’t willing to do that.
So if you want something:
- Don’t just hint at what you want
- Don’t just suggest something
- Don’t ask if it might be better if . . .
- Don’t be scared the other person might say no (they already are saying no if you are not asking)
ASK directly and clearly for what you want.
The time to be wishy washy is when you are not sure what you want.
The worst that can happen is the person will say no. But if you are not asking, it is very likely you are getting a “no” answer already.
The best thing that can happen is you get a yes.