People can be anti- right because they unconsciously think it makes them wrong.
What do I mean by this?
When someone is right, what does that automatically make the other person?
Most people would answer wrong. And most people have this reaction so ingrained in them, that anytime someone is ‘right’ they will fight against it because they unconsciously think that is making them wrong.
But this is not always the case.
Someone can be ‘right’ about something without making someone else wrong. In fact, it is often ourselves that makes us wrong. Often in part because of this response that if someone else is being right, we must be wrong. So we immediately begin trying to make ourselves right. When if you wouldn’t have had a response, no one would have been wrong.
Not always, but often.
So how does this apply to you? When you are sharing something with someone, something that you know could help or benefit them. If you get to ‘right’ about it helping them, they will get defensive about what you are suggesting because they think you are making them wrong (often even unconsciously). So back off and don’t be so right about how it will help them. Then they won’t be so cornered into thinking they are wrong.
Also, don’t be so quick to try and defend something just because someone else is being right. It doesn’t automatically make you wrong. |
