This guy goes to a hotel and asks for a room.
The front desk clerk asks him if he wants to see a room first. He says sure. So the front desk clerk proceeds to take the man to the room.
On the way to the room the man says, the room is perfect, I will take it.
The front desk clerk says, but you haven’t even seen the room yet?
The man answers, I know, but life is not how we react to something, but how we make up our mind first it will be.
And this doesn’t just apply to something we like.
If you decide something is going to be difficult, it will be.
If you think before hand that something will be ugly, it will be.
If you decide before it starts that some event is boring, it will be.
Now, to many people is obvious.
What is not so obvious is, when we judge people and events, that is deciding before hand what it will be.
For example, if you see someone with long hair, piercings everywhere, and dressed crazy, many people would decide/judge that there is something wrong with that person. So you know what their experience will be of that person? Something of a challenge, no matter how the person is. They will see what they want to see, focus on what they want to focus on, and prove that their judgment and assessment is correct.
If you see a man dressed up in a suit when you walk into a high end retail store, many people will decide/judge that person to work their, and expect them to be relatively friendly. They will then see that person as such and interact them as they are that way, and prove it to be true.
If you see a guy dressed in leathers, long chain on his wallet, long scruffy beard and hair, and just big and mean looking, many people will decide/judge that person to be mean and gruff.
If you see a woman dressed in a very short miniskirt, tube top, high heels, just hanging out on a street corner in a seedy part of town, Many of us know who and what she is, and we will prove that true, whether or not it is actually true.
See, we make judgments about all sorts of things, which is our opinion. But then we forget that we made it up, that it is our opinion, and believe it to be fact. Believe it to be just the way that it is.
Many of us see the government as a thing to protect us, and that does protect us, and has our best interests at heart. And if you believe this, then you will make it true – ignoring anything else that might be different to this judgment /opinion.
So if you want to enjoy life way more than you currently are, then simply start making up judgments and opinions that empower you and give you the happiness and peace you seek.